You don’t need vacations, expensive jewelry, or a fancy gadget to prove to your partner that you love them. Yes, grand gestures are always nice, but it’s the little things that add up! Actions speak louder than words, and these 10 actions will ensure your partner knows just how much you love them.
10 Little Things That Say ‘I Love You’
1. Know your partner’s love language
We all crave love in different ways so the things that make you feel loved may not make your partner feel that same amount of love. For example, if your love language is gift giving, you may assume that your partner will feel most loved when you shower them with gifts. But let’s say your partner’s love language is quality time; this doesn’t mean they won’t appreciate the gifts, they’ll just feel more valued if you do something to carve out time to spend with them on an especially busy day.
2. Show interest in the things they care about
You and your partner probably have different passions and interests, which is great! A big part of making them feel loved is showing an interest in the things they care most about. This doesn’t mean faking it (pretending to like cars when you really have no interest at all), instead, it means seeking to understand what they love most and why they love it.
3. Engage in the activities they care about
This is the action part of showing interest in the things your partner cares about. If your partner is an animal activist, suggest going to volunteer at a shelter together. If they love golf, head to the driving range and let them teach you a few things about their favorite sport.
4. Spend time with their friends
Often times our friends are an extension of ourselves. Spending time with your partner’s friends is a great way to show your partner you’re invested in their life. This might mean giving up an occasional Friday night that you’d usually spend with your group of friends, but relationships include all sorts of sacrifices.
5. Respect their need for space
While quality time is crucial in any relationship, it’s equally important to give your partner space. This alone time (or solo time spent with their friends) gives them the opportunity to recharge and refuel. It will also give them the chance to miss you and value your time together even more.
6. Actively listen
We all need an outlet and a person to share our highs and lows with. By actively listening to the good and the bad in your partner’s life, you’re proving you can be that person. Sometimes they’ll need you to lend an ear, so they have the opportunity to vent. Other times they might be seeking advice. Be careful not to cross the two and give unsolicited advice when it’s not needed, or not offer any advice at all when they’re desperately seeking it.
7. Giving gifts
We all love to get a little present, especially when we’re not expecting it. Giving your partner a “gift” can be as small as grabbing their favorite candy in the checkout aisle of the grocery store. Gifting something as small as this shows that even in unexpected situations, they’re always on your mind.
8. Think ahead
A lot of showing your partner you love them includes knowing what they’re up against and trying to make life a little easier for them. Let’s say it’s trash day but you know your partner had a tough day at work. Do something little like taking the trash cans out to the street; this way they’ll have one less thing to worry about when they get home.
9. Prioritize your relationship
Life can get busy pretty fast and it’s easy to start cutting out the fun things that were once keeping your relationship exciting. To prevent this from happening, set aside time each week to make your partner a priority. Make Saturday’s your date night and don’t allow any conflict to get in the way of it.
10. Don’t forget the importance of physical touch.
As humans, we crave the need for physical touch. It’s a vital part of any relationship. It’s a way to say ‘I love you’ without using words. If your partner has been under a lot of stress, give them a massage when they get home from work. If they’re having trouble falling asleep at night, give them a back rub until they begin to doze off.
Again, you don’t need to go big in order to prove to your partner that you love them. Each of these little things is sure to show how much love you feel for them.
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